To many men she would be difficult. An HSW/HD woman will be emotional (which doesn’t mean histrionic, it should be noted) and may initially do a lot of shit testing. This is so she can feel that her (potential) man is strong enough to protect her and handle her. If such a woman is not kept well sexed and in the knowledge that her man is dominant, she will become contemptuous.
The reason she does not bristle at his dominance is that she really can do it on her own and has high self-worth, but she is still female and as such wants a man that can protect her. She is comforted rather than threatened by a stronger man and has no need to berate others so she can feel better about herself. Her shit tests are not to bring down a man but to make sure he is strong enough for her to respect. She is feisty, but not in the sense used by many women to sell their bitchiness as a positive.
When I was younger I saw women such as this and was always afraid to approach. I pined after such a woman, but always thought I did not have what it takes to have one, so I admired from afar. How could I handle such a woman since I didn’t think I was man enough?
After learning Game, discovering my masculine confidence and encountering a few of this type of woman, I find they are not that difficult. In fact they are quite easy to be around, but a man must know how to ride her emotional waves and not get sucked under. She needs emotional support and she cannot be tamed, but can be a delight when contented.
The HSW/HD is quite rare and most are quite intelligent. They often have baggage, but have refused to become a victim. They often don’t get along all that well with other women while they inherently trust men. Their desire can get so strong that they do wanton things. They know this and seek a man to help them satisfy their needs while enforcing boundaries that they cannot enforce on themselves, due to their tendency toward overpowering desire. For a man with good Game, she is putty in his hands and she knows it. When the desire doesn’t overwhelm her, she tests to know that she can be safe with him when her passion engulfs her.
The HSW/HD is drawn to an Alpha man but if he is a womanizer, it usually ends in divorce. If he turns out to be an insecure controlling asshole, it ends in divorce. This woman is ideal for a Christian Alpha that holds his integrity as more important than his woman. She wants to go on his adventure and does not want to lead her own adventure. If he cannot lead or leads wrongly she is plenty strong enough to separate when her desire for him subsides.
Fisking Mairin’s 2nd comment also is enlightening for many men, since this feminine behavior is not uncommon and is particularly dangerous when exhibited in a wife. The husband faced with this often is either controlled or soon subject to a female-initiated-divorce, complete with financial rape and objections to seeing his children. The signs might seem sublte but it is best to recognize them early. The story of a wife’s exaggerated accusations of her husband’s porn use often end with fatherless children. She will effectivly project all bame on him and be supported and placated by the women in her life and by the people in their church. Yes, we should judge the behavior of others especially those that claim holiness while exaggerating, calling names, viciously judging others and projecting blame.
Looks like several men commenting here view porn and hope everyone, including the Holy Catholic Church will tell them it is okay.
Nope, this is a projection and an attempt to shame men. (It has also been pointed out that women also watch porn and read romance novel porn.) The commenters and the authors of this blog are trying to get at something deeper. Shaming (especially of men) is a common tactic of those that wish to deflect any scrutiny from themselves. Many Christian women feel entitled to speak their mind regardless of how uncivil and accusatory it is.
Sorry. That is not reality. The Church that Jesus began and left us with to do His work tells us that lust is wrong…that looking at other men’s young daughters hooked on drugs & otherwise forced into porn is evil. While you cling to your adolescent wetdreams of hot,ready, wanton, teens waiting to be ravished by you…the reality is sad and filled with broken girls raped, abused and killed when they get too old in some situations. When you look at any porn, as a paying customer or not, you are participating in that evil. Porn warps and destroys. It makes you selfish.
Yes of course lust is wrong and sinful, but arousal is not synonymous with lust. What is it about Mairin’s obsession with teen girls? I like mature women and most men do. It is absurd to think that most men obsess about teenage girls. Frankly men also like a mature woman that they can talk to.
Marin really likes to denigrate men with her emotional judging mind and she seems to think men are adolescent. Is she so insecure that she believes she has nothing to offer a man and that a teenage girl is more appealing? This is so sad! As to “broken girls raped and abused and killed,” Mairin’s emotions are extreme. The emotions are totally out of proportion to the subject which indicates this was a trigger for something within her. Often deep sexual shames within a woman will to drive her to displace guilt onto men. Since insecure women cannot function when they accept personal responsibility, they deflect it on men. They believe the “evil sexual nature of men” caused them to do whatever they did in their younger days. Women often believe they are not responsible for what they do and now the old self has been redeemed and she is a new woman she can be wholly holy, complete with female moral superiority. This is why such a woman thinks she is equipped to pass judgment on others, project sins on men, and control her marriage and the sexual expression within her marriage. Vehemently projecting deflects attention from away from a woman’s past sins and her secret sexual shames.
It appears that most of the arguments against the porn business are based on misconceptions from people who don’t know a whole lot about it (or projected misconceptions and deflected shame from those that have a porn habit, but pretend they do not). The cases that are cited of people who do suffer from the porn industry are a bit chicken and egg – they were probably damaged to begin with and may have just as easily found some other way to self-destruct if there were no porn industry. I don’t dispute that there are moral problems with pornography from a Christian perspective. Nevertheless, porn is mostly about very normal things men want in their sex lives. Why aren’t the “good” Catholic/Christian wives fulfilling their marital obligations and are stealing their bodies back after having given themselves to their husbands in the marital vows? Could such stinginess and thievery drive a man to relive his pent up sexual passion by taking the matter into his own hands since his primary loving ordered outlet is defiant?
We can quibble over what the meaning of lust IS…what the word IS means…but you porn lovers know you would never leave those pictures, magazines and websites up when Jesus came for a visit to your home. You wouldn’t have your daughters naked in front of Him. Why? Because you know it is wrong. You know that porn has lad you deeper into sickness. The bare breasts weren’t enough. The total nudity wasn’t enough. The guy on girl wasn’t enough…the two guys on one girl wasn’t enough nor the four girls on one guy….how far will you take it to be enough titillation? Children? You have masterbated to girls dressing up in the catholic school girl uniform….animals in there…gay porn…trying it out yet?
I will not quibble about definitions since principles are based on logic, not on feelings. Lust is sin. There is no good lust. The meaning is important because a man that greatly desires his wife and is aroused is not lusting. Since she cannot use definitions or engage in rational debate, she shames those that can use logic and definitions by calling them sinners. No one here has claimed to be a “porn lover,” but many are honest enough to admit to seeing porn. What are those websites that nobody here has referred to? Bare breasts are not that big a deal in many cultures. The truth of Christianity is not defined by culture; there are deeper truths which can be rationally proved. Mairin imagines a progression (slippery slope) while at the same time negating the innate beauty of a female body. This paradigm is often touted but not true for most people because their desires do not change that much over time. And also men do not marry a woman merely for her spirit. Men are attracted to the innate beauty and shape of a woman’s body; God created this dynamic. Mairin overlooks the fact that a person is the union of body and spirit.
So, anesthetize yourselves all you want with semantics. “Everyone else is doing it” is such a silly response for your sin. God knows your immature justifications and isn’t going to be fooled by them.
This is just hysterical ranting. There is a difference between rationalizing sin with “everyone else is doing it” and meeting people where they are, which is really what we have been doing here. On Judgment Day we will all stand naked before “our maker” and our lives and our sins will be revealed. There will be no hiding.
Just do yourselves a favor and man up. My husband conquered porn with confession, the Rosary and prayer. He is an awesome man.
And then she uses the old “man up” admonition…. Truly laughable! Mairin has successfuly implemented the a wife’s progression of control. Pay attention to the words people use to describe sexuality and you discover the nature of that person. I would venture that she wears the pants and her awesome husband doesn’t arouse her. Spirituality and Sexuality are opposite sides of the same coin. An asexual person or a person that represses sexuality is will project a false spirituality. Christian women are not any more honest or trustworthy than secular women.
After reading what Marin has written, how many people are willing to join the Catholic Church to be around the likes of her? Being rabidly anti-Porn and projecting any incidence of male Porn use as equivalent to lust, adultery-in-the mind, and valid justification for woman initiated divorce is the modern Shibboleth in Christianity. It is all too common for the feminized church to deny the sexual nature of women, which Social Pathologist writes so succinctly about.
Anybody think that Mairin is a happy person in her self-proclaimed Catholic holiness, with her awesome husband and wonderful sexually fulfilling marriage?
The emotions people exhibit reveal much about their life. I have learned much from observing people and unfortunately have seen many women like Mairin and the damage that follows in their wake. Personalities of people do reveal their worth and are of extreme importance for men to consider in interactions with women, whether it be social or in the selection of a wife. Men should learn some Game to effectively deal with women and wives to counter the shaming and blaming.
CL
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