The Collapse of the American Dream

People don’t understand what is about to transpire or the reasons.

Are the modern bankers really banksters or “money changers”?
Is there a reason that Jesus was most upset and physical toward the “money changers” than other people?

Spanking a Wife: 1950s Style

And then there is Collard’s First Law of Spanking:

I am right-handed and I always make my wife face left over my lap. Left-handed men presumably position their woman facing right.

I wonder what Collard’s Second Law of Spanking will be.

Rediscovery of the Simple Purpose of Woman

Over the course of my life, I have intermittently struggled with depression. Medication does not fix this; as with many such ‘treatments’, it only addresses the symptom and not the underlying cause, which I believe is more spiritual in nature than physical and that any physical evidence (assuming there is any) is the bodily reflection of the spiritual state.

Why are so many women depressed? Why do we lose heart? That this seems a distinctly modern ill should tell us that it is not purely biological. No woman is an island and we are all affected by culture. The fear of the Emotional Swamp is the fear of getting sucked under and into the spiritual numbness and paralysis commonly known as depression. It is not a disease but a state. Or, perhaps it is fair to say that it is a spiritual disease, not an organic one.

Often we feel we are expected to be cheerful and bubbly, but sometimes we are not and this feels like a failure of our own femininity, and we doubt ourselves as women. We are not as perpetually poised and ever ready as [insert unreal archetype here]. We either busy ourselves or sink into self-pity, closing off those who might help us and killing our own hearts because to feel would be to hurt, and we fear that no one will meet us there or pull us out, so we will drown.

As a girlfriend and wife, my failure as I perceived it was that I did not inspire a man to do anything (or at least, not that I was aware of). I knew this was what bothered me most and I articulated it as such even then, but I didn’t understand yet that this was the purpose of Woman. I did not know that I had a purpose, much less what it was, and at times could be quite nihilistic and full of existential angst. I knew that was a dead end, but didn’t see any other path and faith eluded me.

A woman often turns these negative feelings on herself, which results in depression (often said to be “anger turned inward”) and other mental states and personality disorders. There is a reason BPD and NPD are so resistant to psychotherapeutic treatment and even drugs, and why many women self-medicate with alcohol, drugs, sex, work, making children into a project, trying to project perfection, etc..

I figured I just wasn’t the kind of girl/woman who inspired men. How I longed for a song in my name, or something! Perhaps I didn’t understand that it didn’t have to be about me, yet I believe I grasped that too, whether or not I could articulate it.  It was about how all I wanted was to be able to inspire a man to do things, and the apparent lack of ability to do this made me depressed. I just ended up feeling like part of the furniture and felt hopeless and worthless.

 

Adam was alone and without purpose before Eve; Eve was created from him to be his helpmeet. This concept is derided in modern times and a girl growing up is encouraged to act more or less like a man – going out into the world to slay dragons and prove herself. If women deny or are denied their purpose, then they will be unhappy and men will be uninspired.  Everyone loses. A woman creates wealth by inspiring a man, not by enslaving a man. Wealth is created by investment, not by taxation and destruction of capital. One cannot expect the money tree to bear fruit forever if it is not cared for, watered and fertilized. Get the picture?

THIS is what is in our hearts. THIS is what we were made for. There really is no greater joy than seeing the man you love get all fired up about something and then go and produce – and this isn’t just about money or material gain, it’s about him doing what is in his heart and seeing him come alive, inspiring him to conquer something and triumph over challenges. Men can go and produce on their own steam – many men have been highly successful in this regard, without a woman – but it provides an empty victory. He needs beauty; he needs to be captivated and to win what captivates him; he needs Woman and Woman needs him.

Addendum: The alternative, rather than inspiring a man, is that there is always the “Therapeutic Christianity” approach.

The Emotional Swamp

Women are insecure about many things and foremost are doubts of the physical beauty of her body.  This triggers emotionality at times and can lead her into an emotional swamp.  Men can learn to handle this but rather than just talk about it, I am providing an example of an actual chat discussion.

As you read this, note the aspects of leading her, compassion, teasing, dominance and patience.  This need not be scary for either the man or woman.  These situations are common and a man taking a bit of effort and time to handle this when it crops up can make the difference between days of hell (possibly leading to divorce) or a minor bump that can strengthen a relationship.

CL: **WARNING** Do not try this at home if you are a beta.  This is advanced material that only works on women if coming from a confident man with ‘inner Game’.

Abandon all hope, ye who dare enter this wall of text. Or skip to the end for the wise lesson.

 

7man: In your submission I depend on you as I have with no other woman.  You are not lesser than me and femDOM women cannot begin to understand this. You find great interior strength in submission. It is liberating for you.

CL:  And I can look to you for whatever strength I lack.  But at the same time, if you are lagging I can pull you too.

7man: I appreciate that, but I don’t always like it because then I have to confront my own failings.

CL:  You don’t have to be a man-statue to be loved.

7man: I will project that to the world but let you see the soft parts of me.

CL:  Big smile.  You don’t have to be “on” for me all the time.  That would be silly.  I like your calm fortitude, but I know that you are not made of stone.  Just like you say to me – I love YOU!!

7man: Ditto

CL: Women think men don’t have feelings or they are afraid of a man’s feelings – especially seen in “Angry Man” syndrome.  Oh, and I figured out last night what is at the bottom of all my biggest insecurities.

7man: Good, do tell.

CL: It is that I have always been insecure about being feminine at all.  So it all stems from that.  I wasn’t a girly girl, didn’t have “girl” interests, my voice is deeper than most women, I played dumb to be more “girly”, both men and women find me a threat of some sort or another (which is weird), “one of the guys” kind of gal, too much sex drive…  I don’t have very feminine talents and [redacted – childhood stuff].

7man: I remember your voice the first time we talked on the phone.  But it is so very different when I can talk to you on webcam and in person. I choose you because I want YOU and see things in you that are so VERY feminine.

CL:  All these are things I’ve hated about myself, and if you mention them, I die a little inside because of it.  And I mean hated – I didn’t even talk to people some days.  I hate talking on the phone.  I would rather hide myself away

7man: So you have had to “suffer” thru all these things but it meant you were available for me.  Yeah for me!

CL: That is why I don’t want to hear it from you – it hurts too much.  I was THE most self-conscious kid you could imagine.  You might not know it now….or YOU might know – and I got bullied everywhere I went and sometimes I just don’t like people very much

7man: You have to feel those hurts to heal.  There is one truth that you can always hold on to… I CHOOSE YOU.

CL: I’m tired of hurt and I suppose all of this has led me to differentiate myself in other ways

7man: I have a talent for leaving people defenseless.  I do this with you and I see the real you.  That is who I love.

CL: Even though it hurts sometimes, I love that in you and I realise things about myself I wouldn’t have otherwise – I can articulate it better, I should say… you know me better than anyone but you still love me.

7man: At some point you will need to just accept that I love you, I will keep you and I am not concerned about the things that you find imperfect in yourself.  But I think the more real this gets, the more you are afraid of losing it.  Then the old fears come up to inflame your self-doubt.  You have a difficult time accepting that you (of all people) deserve this.  I don’t care whether you deserve this or not.  I want you and if you so choose, you can be miserable in your contentment.

CL: There is truth in that.  Sorry to go on and on.  Oh well, you knew what you were getting into!

7man: Don’t apologize for such things.  I am smiling at you!

CL: You are? LOL

7man: Yes, because you so doubt your value to me.

CL:  I wish I would shut up sometimes!  Stupid ball of sadness!

7man: Put on your “big girl panties” now.

CL: Yes captain, he he he.  Thank you.  (for telling me to put on my big girl panties) (and not pandering)

7man:  I handle you in an unconventional way.  I am laughing at how well that works too.  Your minor crises do not bother me or cause me to change my mind about you.

CL: Maybe I am just shit testing you, to see if my storms pull you under, but it is not on purpose or consciously done that way.

7man: Maybe so.  That doesn’t matter, since it is a woman’s nature to test.  I give you freedom to feel.  I will enforce the boundaries and keep you safe with my assurances.  This means I will not pander to you.  I will tell you the truth.  I will keep you.  I will smile at you.  I will love you.  But I will not try to change your emotions by wading into the emotional swamp.  I am the oak tree on solid ground and am firmly rooted.

 

At this point the exchange ended for several hours.  There were some other discussions later not on this subject but the next morning we resumed discussion of this topic.

CL: Morning! I dreamt of [redacted]

7man: You have an active imagination.

CL:  There was a lot of stuff in there – it was a cluttered kind of dream

7man: BTW, did you get your “safety thingy” fixed?

CL: Yeah, but I couldn’t do it by myself!  I had a bunch of thoughts last night after I shut down my computer.

7man: Most men expect women to be linear rational creatures, but women are cyclical emotional creatures.

CL: It got me thinking last night, in the Wild at Heart book he said, “You can tell what kind of man you’ve got by simply noting the impact he has on you.”  I thought about that, then about what it is that I do for you and how the two fit together.  It’s easy for me to think about what you do for me, but less easy for me to think about what I do for you, but I told myself I needed to do that.

7man: I have told you but it takes time for it to sink in.

CL: I think I am mostly just afraid you will get bored with me, and won’t be so captivated. It’s not rational, I know. Yeah, it probably does take a while to sink in because I have never experienced this kind of love before and often told myself it didn’t exist.

7man: It does not need to be rational.  We are making progress in that area.  There are fears that must be felt.  You have repressed those fears and often do not want to think about them.

CL: I was thinking of that Buddhist thing – “lean into the sharp points” – that’s what that means.  So yeah, you are right that I need to face those fears and insecurities or they will become a problem.  It wouldn’t be the first time that had become a problem – and the more you feel you have something to lose, the more you perversely try to protect yourself, which winds up causing you to lose because of a basic fear to love.  It is that – a fear to really love someone more than you love yourself.  I have to ask myself, would I rather take that risk or stay “safe” in an airless room?

7man: You have to trust more than you fear.

CL: Or you have to not let the fear grow into something that stops you from living.  You can feed it or not and I made a list of all the ways you impact me and it’s ridiculous to fear with all that, but there’s always something – I could fear you dying before me!  It can get stupid. I also wrote about how I inspire you, how you need me as much as I need you, which is how a man needs a woman as much (but in different ways) as a woman needs a man, and how that is what we are made for.

7man: If I mention your flaws, that brings up those fears.  It is irrational, but there are a lot of old scripts ready to run in your brain.  Then you feel that I might dump you because of those flaws so it is difficult to be open about those things.

CL: I’m not sure what it is since I haven’t really been dumped for those things but I have not felt loved like this and felt that someone else had more pull than I did, so I suppose it’s only natural that I see why some other woman is more beautiful than I am, and that if only I was more feminine and captivating, someone would love me.  In some ways I see how I am not so at peace with it all as I like to imagine.  But I don’t want to go delving into that too much today.

7man: OK. These things are addressed over time, doing too much, too fast gets overwhelming.

CL:  Yeah, I just want to let it lie for now and read and let things work themselves out a bit.  There’s only so much navel gazing I can stand. :P

7man: A mind can only handle so much at once and ingrained beliefs don’t change rapidly.

CL: We said the same thing in different ways.

7man: I am very patient with these things.

CL: Yes, you are.  You always impress me that way.

7man: The most adventurous thing you do with me is your willingness to be vulnerable; to face the fears and to trust me with your heart.

CL: Very true and I want that adventure, even though it’s scary and painful sometimes – but if it wasn’t scary or painful sometimes, it would be hollow.

7man: And there was a fear I needed to face with you and to just trust you in this too.

CL: Can you tell me what that is? I’m not sure I understand.

7man: I can, as long as you don’t let it bug you or withhold because of what I tell you.

CL: Well I don’t know what it is so how can I answer that? I won’t withhold….

7man: When you get very emotional and insecure, I fear getting sucked down and losing myself in it.  I worry that it will get worse and that it will escalate into a BPD type thing.  I just had to be strong and go there enough with you and trust that you would find your way out and it would not become a permanent thing.  The only way I could know this was to just trust you.  I did that and it turned out good.

CL: I know you have that fear… That’s why I apologise sometimes – I don’t like to bring that up in you either.  I have to manage myself but sometimes I need you to help me.  I fear you getting sucked down into it too!  I don’t want that!

7man: Don’t withhold because we both need to deal with these things.  It would be much worse if we repressed things out of fear of pushing the other away.

CL: I know, I understand that. When I get kind of emo over something it’s hard for me to NOT tell you – it’s actually impossible because you’ll see it all over my face eventually anyway.  And withholding builds walls.  So don’t worry, it doesn’t bug me and I won’t stop blubbering about some crap every so often : P  I know what you’ve been through and it’s only natural that you would fear things going downhill into that again, but I don’t see that happening with us.

7man: Every time we deal with this stuff, our relationship gets stronger and we trust more.

CL: This is how rational adults deal with things! LOL.  Not by turning off the lights.  I realised last night that while you have all this positive impact on me, I do the same for you.  My life would be less without you; your life would be less without me. So I have to buck up and put on my big girl panties. I can take them off sometimes, but mostly I need to stop.  Some things will always be there and picking at it doesn’t do a lot of good.  I think our little internal storms are not a huge deal.

7man: You have to take off your big girl panties to heal these things.  I disagree that you mostly need to stop.  It doesn’t happen that often.  Be naked and I can tell you when to put your big girl panties back on.

CL: Yeah, OK. I trust you.  Humans are some messed up creatures! LOL

7man:
Unless you go into the emotional swamp and come back out, you will fear that the swamp will suck you under.

CL:
Can’t I just go into the wilderness, shoot a deer and come back a man? LOL

7man:
No, you must get naked and go into the swamp.  Then I will call to you and tell you to come back out and put on your big girl panties.

When a woman goes into the emotional swamp she becomes neurotic.  Then when she comes out, she becomes more rational.  If a woman avoids the emotional swamp or a man tells her that she is not to go there, then she will become neurotic all the time.  That is when he will become more distant and she will become more needy.  The constant neurosis is what men fear.  That is the situation that many men create in marriage by expecting his wife to think rationally and fix her “safety thingy” on her own.  Therefore the answer is to not fear or avoid the emotional swamp.  It is another paradox, but it seems that a woman periodically needs to wallow in the emotional swamp mud.

CL:
You’ve just described the cause of many divorces!

Kooks of the Past & Present

1958:
Listen to the wacky views of Robert Welch, the founder of the John Birch Society. How could anyone believe that such things would happen in the United States?

 

It is a good thing to know the history of our nation and about those that have held contrary views to those of the common populace.

 

2012:
And now 54 years later, there is Judge Napolitano voicing his wacky questions.

 

Should “we the people” be afraid of these kooks? – You decide!

 

Not shaming sluts does not reduce the shame within sluts

There is a great outcry from sluts to society to not shame them and they have been largely successful in this endeavor. My contention is that this has not reduced the shame sluts carry within themselves. CL previously did a post on Slut Shaming and now I will add my perspective.

Women are insecure and need the frequent affirmation of a man and the approval of the herd (other women). In order to get this approval, some women may act out, flaunt their indiscretions and then mandate that other people approve of their behavior. This might sound irrational, but do people act rationally (especially women)?

I learn much from CL. Similar shame is present with single mothers. They know deep down that this is not how it is meant to be. It is a constant struggle and without the support and parental teamwork, there is no respite from the need to do it all by themselves. If they mention this to other women, often they are told variations of “It is not your fault”; “You are doing the best you can”; “Single mothers are awesome”; “Don’t beat yourself up!” While these statements may or may not be true, it does not reduce the discomfort of the situation. Not being able to discuss and have reality acknowledged becomes a burden and the shame still exists because shame is not a rational thing.

It is the same way with sluts. They know deep down that their past behavior is not satisfying and it cheapens their worth in their own eyes and in their consideration by men for a Long Term Relationship and ultimately marriage.

If a “reformed” slut (usually a woman that has rationalized past slut behavior) finds a man, often she will not be honest about her past. She believes that if she were to reveal her past, she would not be loved. This is evidence that the shame of a slut does not go away, no matter how sex positive the culture becomes. Sluts repress the feeling of shame, yet it remains under the surface, even if not consciously acknowledged. When a woman chooses this path, she actively obstructs receiving love for who she is. The love she receives is for her false projected self. It does not satisfy.

In order to attempt to shed the shame, many women turn to religion. This is seen in the reclaimed virgins in Churchianity: Jesus has forgiven them and they are a new person in Christ and their sins have been washed away. While this is true, the temporal consequences of their past actions are not wiped out. These women usually still blame the sexuality of men as the cause for her past behavior, which is played out as she practices moral superiority over men and controls the sexual expression in her marriage. In other words, she becomes a prude in order to put her sexual past behind her. Needless to say this results in much marital strife and precluded in the first place the real bonding that comes from the sexual union as properly ordered and as intended by God.

There’s a lot you don’t know
There’s a lot I can’t tell
Would you think I’m crazy
if you knew me that well?

’cause there’s a lot you don’t know
but you say you won’t go and I’d like to believe you

But I know there’s no one left to save me
(I’m the only one)
There’s no one left to save me
(I’m the only one)
There’s no one left to save me

Was it all in my head?
Or somehow is it truth?
Was it something I said?
I can offer no clue

’cause there’s a lot I don’t know
but you say you won’t go and I’d like to believe you

But I know there’s no one left to save me
(I’m the only one)
There’s no one left to save me
(I’m the only one)
There’s no one left to save me

I did it for love
I did for experience
I did it for love
I did it for, I did it for, I did it for love

But I know there’s no one left to save me
(I’m the only one)
There’s no one left to save me
(I’m the only one)
There’s no one left to save me

There is a despair that every woman carries (especially if she has been with more than one man). This is not healed in her by hiding it. She will always doubt if she is really loved. She longs to rest her head on his chest and let her tears fall. A man cannot love a false woman and can only love an honest, vulnerable woman. Of course this involves a huge risk for her, but what other choice is there if she is to fulfil her deepest longing of being loved for who she is, including her past indiscretions?

Game Comes in Spurts

Many men complain that Game is too difficult and that they shouldn’t have to be constantly gaming their wives or girlfriends. Their conclusion is based on a faulty understanding of women.

Dominance and Game is not a constant thing a man must do. A woman will be assured and then content for a while until she needs another dose (this meets her need for security).  With calibration and maintaining the frame, a man will know the when he needs to up his Game.   This is not difficult if he simply becomes aware of when she is getting restless and needing to be “put back in her place” (this is a place of security). When he senses her restlessness – which can show up as shit tests or nagging or just boredom, amongst other signals – that is when a man should up the dominance a bit. When she is ovulating, this can go further (even if it seems extreme).  To her, it is not perceived that way but as a firm boundary in which she feels safe.

 

For all the talk at Sheila’s blog and others of her ilk about women needing to know their bodies, there is little about a woman’s natural cycle and nothing on how that relates to Game. This is possibly due to the fact that so many women are on artificial hormonal contraception and thus do not experience as much variation, particularly the peak of sexual desire during ovulation. This is the best time for a man to try new things and to be more aggressive and dominant because that is precisely what she craves as her body is fertile and most ready to go.  Sex will remain a difficult thing in a marriage where the woman controls the sexual activities.  Her control means she does not trust him and she does not feel secure, and so her desire will decrease and her ability to orgasm may be lacking.

 

Today’s challenge

Visit ToLoveHonorAndVacuum and identify the examples of Sheila’s femDOM advice that promote women controlling men.  There is at least one such statement in each of her recent articles.  If you find any mention of a wife submitting or giving up control to a man, be sure and cite it and copy it into a comment on this blog post.

 

I’d be willing to bet that most women aren’t so different and that a woman’s man could get her revved up with some text messages and come home, confidently/discreetly thrust his fingers into her, and she would be ready to go. It is worth noting that if he does these things when she’s receptive (ovulation) it is the set-up for more of the same throughout the month but with varying degrees of dominance required. She will crave that same sensation remembered not only in the mind but in the body. Her body will want it; if she has been primed during the ovulatory phase, it won’t take as much effort the rest of the cycle when she won’t be craving the more extreme dominance that she craves during ovulation.

A confident man does not ask for sex; he tells her, then he watches for her reaction, but not her approval.  Women respond to a bold man but are repulsed by wussy men.  It is best to establish this dynamic early in a relationship because changing the roles after years is very difficult.  She does not want to make the decisions of whether she wants sex but has taken this responsibility since he is not bold/confident/dominant enough for her to trust.

 

Most people think a restless woman needs comfort, but domination works where comforting her fails, since comfort is him trying to change her mood directly.  Benevolent dominance is caring without placating. Somehow this display calms her since if he is strong enough to handle her, then she can trust him to handle the external things in life – the things that cause her to feel insecure.  She cannot trust a subservient wussy man to handle the external things in life.

Don’t confuse her feeling of restlessness with insecurity.  When a woman feels insecure then she needs affirmation; when she is feeling loving she needs gentle comfort. It may be helpful if a woman knows her moods, which helps her to be more receptive to her man’s headship. She can also express what she needs better and he can respond to that, although often a woman will be unable to do this and men should not take it as a deliberate test.

 

The flip side is that when he needs a soft place to fall, somewhere to rest, she can provide that for him. If she is constantly on guard, afraid to let him lead or if he is not leading, neither gets what they need. It may sound like a man has to be constantly on guard and gaming his woman but this simply isn’t so. The focus here is on the Game aspect, but this is a relatively small percentage of the total time. It is an investment that pays off and the more it becomes a habit, the easier it gets to do this regularly. Once a woman is relaxed and content, when she knows the boundaries and is reassured of them every so often, the majority of the time is ‘normal’ time, when they are simply two human beings on an equal footing sharing life together. She knows her place, he knows his, and both find comfort there.

Competence, Game, and the Female Introvert

I read RM’s post, Introversion, Dominance, and Sigma at AlphaGame and found I could relate to it quite a bit, even thought he is obviously describing a male paradigm. As an introverted female, it’s a bit different in result, but the personality type is quite similar. I have learned not to care about other people’s self-inflicted problems but I still care about unjust things that cause pain. I also find it highly irritating when I am trying to think and I am interrupted for something stupid and don’t do small talk very well. However, the “brooding loner” persona doesn’t work for women the way it does for men since few are attracted to a woman who appears to be an ice queen.

For me as a younger person, this was probably a form of self-preservation since I didn’t understand all this social interaction hoohaw so well and certainly didn’t have “girl game” nor did I find my place in groups of females. Therefore, I have had to learn what comes more naturally to others and although I still have my quirks, I can at least come across as warm and friendly (and it’s genuine, it just takes a little more effort for an extremely introverted person) rather than weird and aloof (although I don’t always care if I come across this way). I also carry myself differently than I did when I was younger (if I could go and slap my younger self, I would).

This is no different than men who learn Game and integrate those traits into their personalities; those who say it’s “fake” don’t understand that these are natural behaviours that for one reason or another have been forgotten or beaten out of us by the culture. Or, in the case of introverts, do need to be consciously cultivated, as we all carry traits of introversion and extroversion, just in varying degrees. Of course it can be over the top and cheesy (see: Mystery) or feel unnatural due to it being unfamiliar, but with practice it becomes second nature. Picking up a violin also feels unnatural and awkward at first, and doesn’t sound too great either, but with practice it becomes like another limb for the virtuoso or even just for an average musician.

The resistance to change on the personality level is weird – there is nothing self-denying or untrue in growing and becoming better in social settings. Those who are content to wallow in loserdom reject Game; those who would rather win at life embrace it and use it.

Economic Hard Times Linked to Societal Sexuality Changes

Everyone tries to talk about what is wrong with the world but then avoid talking about the body and sex.  This is true of Alex Jones, who exposes many of the forces working against our freedoms and progressing to enslave the populace. This is true of the Catholic Bishops that are all up in arms about how the government will force the church to pay for contraceptive services.  Sheila Gregoire talks about improving sex without getting to the heart of the issue by pandering to women. I predict that in 29 days there will be no mention of female submission or male ownership of the woman’s body (even though she has said a wife owns the man’s body).  My how Christianity has been dumbed down and this is further evidence of why men are to teach and women are “to remain silent in the churches”, which includes public ministry.

If the foundation of civilization is compromised (sexuality, marriage & family), then the economic structure is destined to collapse.

At this blog, we will address these issues directly and make some bold truthful statements. This post will serve as an introduction to some key concepts that we will expand on in the future. Christians who may be shocked or offended by these posts should remember that not talking about them DOES NOT MAKE THEM GO AWAY. Silence on “delicate” issues cedes the matter to the the devil.

The body is good.

The gnostic heresy that the body is evil and the spirit good is an idea that it is time to confront. The body is not the source of all evil – the spirit is where evil is propogated. The inclination to evil is part of human nature and the body is not primarily to blame but the spirit, the body’s animating force. The war of faith is a spiritual war, not a war against the self in the form of repression and rejection of everything bodily.

A man longs to cum inside a woman and a woman longs for that to happen without the artifice of contraception. It is such now that normal sex has become a fetish with various terms employing the word “raw”, indicating that “protected” sex is the norm. Contraception blocks the natural course. Think about the root of the word and what it means. Contra: Against, opposite, or contrasting. In accounting, a contra entry is one which is offset by an opposite entry, either a debit or credit.

Natural nudity has been demonized in our society and now everyone views the body only as means to sexual gratification. The body has been over-sexualized to such an extent that we have a hard time not immediately thinking to the sexual when we think of nudity. The only real solution to this is more nudity, but not of the titillating variety of semi-nudity with which we are constantly bombarded. This Reuters report on nudity in a social setting shows that it is totally different to the hyper-sexualized images we see in advertising that feature only perfect 25 year-olds. This is the antidote to not only pornography, but to the rampant body issues that seem to plague people these days, along with the apparently common sexual problems of Christian women. This belief might seem counter, but think a bit. How is the current endeavor of nudity repression working out? Nudity is MORE repressed now than it was 40 or 100 years ago yet there is MORE promiscuity, MORE broken families and MORE divorce!

Men desire to dominate a woman and women desire to submit to a good man. This idea has been subverted, taken over by the secular world and twisted by such people as BDSM practitioners and “furries”. The desires of people that are repressed show up in a twisted form on the surface; the physical expression represents the spiritual longings and realities. How are the egalitarian ideal or feminist inspired woman led relationships working out?

Catholics are making a difference because the majority of people willing to talk about sex from a non-PC perspective are Catholic. And there is a growing number of Catholics willing to speak boldly against the PC crowd (there are some Protestants too).

Valentine’s Day Subversion

Nothing says “no sex tonight” like a Hoodie-Footie! Husbands can buy these things and help their wives feel good about their asexuality; wives can finally have the armour against his advances that they’ve craved for so long. Just don’t get the ones with the butt flap.